Once I was visiting the oldest member of my church. “How are you?” I asked.
“I’m doing OK,” she said, “but I just get so frustrated that I can’t do the things I
used to.”
“Dora,” I replied, “you’re 105 years old!” The fact that she was able to wake up in the morning, recognize me and carry on a lively conversation was nothing short of remarkable at her age.
“Dora,” I replied, “you’re 105 years old!” The fact that she was able to wake up in the morning, recognize me and carry on a lively conversation was nothing short of remarkable at her age.
Atul Gawande |
Atul Gawande’s book Being
Mortal is a reflection on what it means that we are creatures who, over
time, age and eventually die. Human existence means learning to live within the
limits of our mortality.
Gawande writes from the perspective of a surgeon. Modern
medicine, he says, operates out of a paradigm centred on diagnosing and curing
disease, and fixing what is broken. But what about when people can’t be fixed?
What about when the problem is not a specific pathology but simply the
limitations of being mortal which become more pronounced with age?
The tendency of the medical system is to a) continue to try
to fix what’s wrong, often inflicting needless suffering on the patient, or b)
simply give up. Care of the elderly eats up huge resources, but often with
little positive results.
Gawande says the question needs to change from “How can we
fix what’s wrong with this patient?” to “What
is the best and fullest life possible for this person, given his or her
limitations?”
I think there’s an analogy here for many of our churches.
(Recognizing that any analogy can only be pushed so far. There are similarities
between an individual and a community, but there are also differences.)
A lot of churches, like a lot of church members, are
struggling with diminishing capabilities. They are not what they once were.
They can’t do what they once did. Partly that’s the result of changes in our
culture, which has pushed religious institutions out of the centre and onto the
(almost invisible) margins.
The leadership in many United Churches are people whose
concept of a vital and healthy congregation was formed in the 1950s and 1960s.
Even though they know things have changed, their attitudes and actions are still driven by powerful memories which shape their image of a healthy church. Compared to that memory, the present reality of the church can only seem like a failure, a shadow of what once was.
Even though they know things have changed, their attitudes and actions are still driven by powerful memories which shape their image of a healthy church. Compared to that memory, the present reality of the church can only seem like a failure, a shadow of what once was.
The problem is that a lot of energy goes into ultimately
futile strategies to try to “fix” what is wrong – to get the young families
back, to change the music, to start this or that program. All of this can
distract us from engaging deeply with the basic question: “Given the reality of where we are, what does a full, abundant life in
Christ look like?”
The fact is that most United Churches will have a high
percentage of older people. To change that significantly would really mean that
the present church would need to cease to exist and something entirely
different take its place. So, the
question is, “How can we be faithful and fruitful as who we are?”
Atul Gawande writes of shadowing a geriatrician as he treats
his elderly patients. Ironically, in an aging society, gerontology is a dying
specialty, with low in status and relatively low in pay. Few medical students
are interested in specializing in the care of the elderly.
But geriatricians can make an enormous difference to people’s
lives, often through paying attention to very simple things. Gawande watched as
the doctor examined a woman in her 80s who had no specific medical condition.
Her main problem was that she was old.
Gawande noted how much attention he paid to his patient’s
feet.
That’s because one of the main threats to the well being of the elderly is falls, and one of the top three causes of falls is improperly cared for feet. Simple, modest, low tech. But crucially important.
That’s because one of the main threats to the well being of the elderly is falls, and one of the top three causes of falls is improperly cared for feet. Simple, modest, low tech. But crucially important.
I wonder: What would
the church equivalent of “foot care” be? What are the simple things we could be
doing to prevent “falls” in our churches – those preventable crises that can
fracture an already fragile congregation, incapacitating it and perhaps
hastening its death?
We may not be able to “fix” everything in the sense of
recreating the kind of robust strength of people’s memories. But what steps can
we take to stabilize congregations so that they can continue living well.
Another key ingredient in the care of the elderly, Gawande
discovered, is a reason for living. Boredom and depression are two of the great
robbers of vitality. Helping people discover a reason to get up in the morning
is enormously important to their well being.
It’s what, in the church, we call a mission. Many congregations are abandoning any sense of real
mission because they believe they are too small, too old, too tired to do
anything useful. But that’s because their mental image of being in mission
implies strenuous physical activity or traveling to a different part of the
world. Jesus calls every Christian to a mission and I don’t think Jesus
intended to abandon us when we get to a certain age.
The real problem is that if nostalgia, loss and low
congregational self esteem dominate, we become unable to discern the
possibilities of the here and now.
I am not suggesting that all we should do is palliative
care, “keep the patient comfortable” until the end. That is one of the differences
between an individual and a community. A community is not limited by the life
span of any one individual. Communities can regenerate and be reborn.
But, Atul Gawande advocates shifting the focus of medical
care from simply fixing and curing to helping people determine what is most
important and taking simple measures to minimize threats, enhance possibilities
and instil a reason for living. Studies have shown that when these things
happen, even the frailest of the elderly can experience a profound
transformation in the quality and meaning of their lives.
As Christians, we believe in a God who raises the dead. We
believe that real transformation is not our achievement, but a gift of divine
grace. Our role is often to remove the barriers that prevent us from
experiencing that transformation.
Perhaps if we became more focused on helping congregations
determine what a rich, full life in Christ means, given the limitations of
their situations, we might find that change happens in exciting ways we never
expected.